I recently attended a meeting where a challenge was issued – Do something dealing with Family History that you have never done before. The initial challenge for me was thinking of something I had never done before. After setting aside genealogy to make it through the holidays, I tried to get back into it at the beginning of the year by returning to some lines I had worked on previously. I became a little frustrated as I found myself banging up against the same brick walls again. I played around with my DNA results after being tested in December and I was introduced to the Relative Finder feature on FamilySearch which was a fun new tool. Then I added my husband to Relative Finder and learned that he was related to some pretty impressive people. Most of these were through his Stark line. This is his adopted line, which we knew little about, so curiosity got me looking into it. I also looked at his mother’s line which had been thoroughly researched by his aunt, but things were messed up on FamilySearch. All of this was interesting, but I didn’t feel like I was accomplishing much.
One thing I had always hoped to be able to do was to teach and inspire my children to get involved in Family History so they could carry on this work after I am no longer able to. This would seem a very worthy goal.
I have three daughters who throughout their adolescence and into adulthood often mocked me for my interest in dead people. I think they resented the time I spent seemingly obsessed with old records when I should have paid more attention to what they were doing. (I probably should have paid more attention to them) Their lack of respect for records and old things left me worried that they would toss out all those papers, binders, books and heirlooms after I was gone.
Then a miracle began the very week that I received this challenge to do something new. My oldest daughter called me and said that she had looked at her husband’s family on FamilySearch and was trying to figure it out. She asked if we could get together and work on genealogy. My youngest daughter had some time during spring break that week and wanted to come home and work on genealogy. She had expressed some interest earlier, but our attempts to actually do anything were frustrating. There was never enough time and it was easier for me to just click away and do things than explain in a way that made sense to her. So we picked a day and planned for all three of us to get together and do genealogy.
Our efforts that day had a frustrating start due to Wi-Fi issues and my youngest getting somewhat sidetracked composing a Family History Rap. Once we got going things started to click. I felt that we accomplished quite a bit that afternoon. The internet is second nature to them and they are quick learners. They were easily searching records and adding information to the respective families they chose to work on. My youngest worked on the Stark line, which also intrigued me and was easy for me to join in.
The real miracle is what happened after. For over a week my youngest called and and texted several times every day and into the nights. She stayed up into the wee hours digging into this family – losing sleep doing genealogy! After she started back to school it continued. (Should I be worried about her grades) She scribbles notes and diagrams like I do. At my suggestion she emailed someone who had contributed to this family. It seemed awkward for her, but I think she has learned as I have that finding distant cousins to collaborate with can be a good thing.
These two sisters got together and had a spontaneous genealogy sleep over working until 3:00 a.m. on the oldest’s husband’s line. Then the multiple calls and texts got going with the oldest. The line she was working on was not coming together as easily as the other, but with persistence and a little guidance she was learning interesting things.
I found myself part of two different tag teams at the same time. My daughters would each ask questions or tell me about a certain person or a record they found and then I would get online to take a look at what they had done and see what other records I could find or suggestions to make. One night I was looking at a family which appeared to have children that didn’t belong there. After checking out some sources, I returned to find a child I had looked at was no longer there. I thought I was loosing it until I found that my daughter was online at the same time and had removed this child after concluding as I had that she wasn’t their child.
I have found the pace my daughters have set to be dizzying. I learned years ago that research online is much faster than scrolling through microfilm during weekly trips to the Family History Library, but with 2 working online simultaneously on multiple generations and texting back and forth, it can be crazy. They get way ahead of me some days. Maybe it will slow down over time? They do have lives too.
It is wonderful to see my daughters excited about adding people to the family tree and learning about them and their lives. I can see that these people are real to them. They are interested in the details of their lives and have formed real connections with some of them.
I may have unleashed a monster. I couldn’t be more proud.